Thursday, March 7, 2019

More Memories

I retired many months ago (actually the last day of June last year) and have spent a not inconsiderable time since then trying, with mixed success, to redefine myself in non-work terms. When you spend just about half of a century in defining who you are by what you do, the decompression takes a bit, I guess (and hope, to be honest). 

I'd forgotten I wrote this but am willing to concede you could be unhappy that I have found it. At the time, nine years ago, I called it:

Arriving Somewhere but Not Here

I relocated my office yesterday. Technically, because of my advanced years and pronounced tendency to dodder, I was overwhelmed with volunteers to help, so numerous that my primary function was decorative rather than functional which widened the gap between promise and performance to a chasm. 

I've been in a ground floor office for the last ten years, I realized as the very last boxes of stuff were packed, taped up and made ready for transport...up five stories in the same building I've been working in to the 'newly, renovated' (some eight years ago) office space that is, literally, eighteen paces from where I had my first office when I returned to the Land of the Round Door Knobs in the fall of 1991. 

Moving, if nothing else, helps keep us from becoming totally possessed by our possessions. I have difficulties letting go of anything, people, problems, paperwork. I work to hold on to all of it for as long as I can, though even I was hard-pressed to figure out why I saved a half page of activities from August of 1998. 

If I believed in reincarnation and had found it in my wallet, I could almost rationalize it, but it was in a desk drawer, under a bag of finger puppets we bought me many years earlier in the Ikea in New Haven, CT.

Many people think of Ikea as the Swedish furniture store, though I'm not sure in the Twilight's Just About Last Gleaming, much of it is actually made at or near Trondheim. I'm thinking more a half a world away, where labor, materials and energy prices help keep costs low and shareholder's returns high. 

Anyway, Ikea has a great cafeteria with excellent, and cheap, eats and, when you know where to look, a killer assortment of finger puppets. I have a set of ten animals, that actually look like the genuine article, though much smaller to fit on your finger. 

The first thing I did after we bought them, was put them on, in preparation for the drive home. A word of advice on finger puppets, from Ikea or anywhere for that matter. you need to have someone with you. You need her to put the second set of five on your other hand; it's really hard to put finger puppets on when you already have some on. 

But the real reason you need someone is there has to be a person to shrink down in her seat and stare without blinking out the front window as traffic slows to a crawl on 95 North because it was built in 1957 when the rate of flow was 20,000 cars a day and now it's more like 20,000 cars an hour while you amuse yourself and other motorists (you believe) by leading the finger puppets in song. 

Actually, the other drivers smile at you the way they'd look at Ted Bundy hitchhiking as they frantically try to switch lanes. Almost all singalong songs succeed with finger puppets except rounds, such as Row, Row, Row Your Boat, unless your shotgun is willing to help out on the bridge but she's usually too busy hissing 'everyone is watching us!' in a tone of exasperation that can only mean a frosty evening when (or if) we get back to the house. 

That means the finger puppets end up in the bottom of a desk drawer, where now, having been rediscovered, they'll enjoy a brief renaissance before being brought home to disappear forever into the basement. I've developed a belief in an afterlife that has room for a Heaven and Hell, as well as Limbo, and a basement. 

As an example, while many of my tribe of Sixties Kiddies would argue as to the final destination of Richard Milhouse Nixon, I believe (we are talking religion, after all) the basement is the most logical place. 

It took less than two hours to pack up my ten years and move it. I spent the rest of the day confronting souvenirs of the paths I've wandered in the last decade (a calendar page from 2003 with a red circle on November 14th is yet another unsolved mystery) and now having to decide what to do with them after successfully postponing that until now. 

"All my designs, simplified/And all of my plans, compromised. I wouldn't be amazed to find the reason for what I do for a living buried in a desk drawer I'll open later in the week, and even less so when I don't recognize it."
-bill kenny

Wednesday, March 6, 2019

Help, Lent, and Other Four Letter Words

The persistent snow over the weekend afforded me an opportunity to do something I don't do very successfully or too often: think. I sat in my living room with one eye on the television watching German soccer with the other one on the window watching the flakes outside accumulate while hoping however much it was, it would be our last of the season.

Probably like you, I take my warm home for granted.

Let’s face it, even though we gripe sometimes, our lives, are pretty cozy. It’s easy to think everyone lives this way because we may not know, or know of, anyone who wakes up in a cold house and has to choose between food or fuel, for themselves and their family every morning.

During the holidays we’re better at seeing those in our community who need a helping hand; it’s the nature of the season. But the need for assistance goes on all year round.

Which brings us to now. We all understand hard times, the money is tight times and we think we know what that feels like, but if you're reading this, believe me we are better off, vastly better off, then many who live not just in our state but perhaps on our street.

I have never needed to make a 'Heat or Eat' decision and I hope, neither have you.
New England winters can be bone-numbingly cold in the best of times, but when you're choosing to pay your heating bill or to buy groceries, we're looking at a decision that can freeze your heart and crush your hope.

In a nation that prides itself on how we care for and about one another, Heat or Eat should be a turn of phrase none of us has ever heard or used.

Like so many others when I visit the Stop & Shop in the Norwichtown Common I add a canned good or two or box of pasta (right there at the check-out) to my order as a donation to the St. Vincent de Paul Soup Kitchen and Food Pantry but I have no illusions, nor do you, as we're walking away from the cashier that we've 'taken care of' that problem.  

Regular donations to agencies such as the Connecticut Food Bank too often feel like we're using a teaspoon to empty an ocean, especially when nearly half a millionConnecticut residents every month need some form of assistance from an agency supported by the Food Bank.

Over 140,000 of our children are "food insecure" (= no reliable access to sufficient quantities of affordable and nutritious food). That is at least 140,000 too many. The solution to this problem isn't in Washington or Hartford, it's in each of us.

Today is Ash Wednesday, marking the start of Lent. How about this year, instead of giving something up, we give something to those who are helping others? Time, talent, treasure, it's your choice.

Together, we can change the world, one meal at a time, every time.
-bill kenny

Tuesday, March 5, 2019

Consider This the Hint of the Century

When we were kids in parochial school, tomorrow was a serious point in the calendar, Ash Wednesday. Today was the absolutely last day before we were expected to give something up for Lent, ShroveTuesday, though I'm not sure any of us understood what "shrove" meant (I know I sure didn't) or even the origins of the term. 

As an adult, I lived for many years in Germany where yesterday, Rosenmontag, and today, Fastnachtdienstag, are the last gasp of the Fasching season or (as it's called in New Orleans) Mardi Gras (and what our Brazilian friends know as Carneval).


There's an 'eat, drink and be merry for tomorrow it's all over' mentality that I find so funky Western Civilization. "They put Jesus on a cross. They put a hole in J. F. K. They put Hitler in the driver's seat and looked the other way. Now they've got poison in the water and the whole world in a trance; but just because we're hypnotized, that don't mean we can't dance."

It's been decades since I gave something up for Lent (truth to tell, I failed my faith and gave up Lent but then kept on living) and I've rationalized my failure by pointing out to myself that since I always went back to whatever I gave up (usually something to eat as opposed to a behavior change), I hadn't really changed at all, so surrender cost nothing because it was worth nothing.

And then I look around me, and see where we are and where I am in the midst of all of that and realize I didn't run backward or stop running at all in order to be here (nor did any of us) but rather, just ran a step slower, a step less resolute, perhaps a shorter footfall until the distance grew inexorably longer between where we wanted to be (and knew we had to go) and where we were to end up, so far behind we could no longer see those up ahead.

And when the distance between us was too great to ever fill, we stopped and have forgotten how to start again. Which makes tomorrow, Ash Wednesday more important as a beginning than today can ever be as an end because I think I saw you try.
-bill kenny

Monday, March 4, 2019

Wow

Where I grew up some people called this Shrove Monday (because tomorrow, the day before Ash Wednesday is called Shrove Tuesday, and we just don't have a whole lot of originality in my faith sometimes) but some know it as Rose Monday and/or Collopy Monday. 

Between you and me, I've never heard anyone call it Collopy Monday but I don't get out much anymore. Or ever.    

I started watching this skit because the comic does a riff about two and half minutes in about  'conversion to Roman Catholicism' that rang a lot of bells in my head but then he kept building and getting funnier and funnier (watch the band behind him as they start to lose their stuff laughing, it's great). 

And at least in my neighborhood, we always needed a good laugh before we got to Lent.
Can I get an Amen?
-bill kenny 

Sunday, March 3, 2019

The Turn of a Friendly Card

Sports doping is, as we all know, rampant these days. Be it bicycle races, baseball, football, or soccer, using performance enhancing drugs to get the competitive edge seems to be in a headline every day.

And now, (cue the Dragnet music) meet Geir Helgemo, Doped-Up Bridge Champion.
Yeah, Bridge.


Leaving me to wonder, who next? Takeru Kobayahsi and Joey Chestnut...?
-bill kenny 

Saturday, March 2, 2019

Sometimes there's Nothing More

Feel free to see it as nothing more than a histrionic love song if you so desire. 

You are wrong and we are running out of time.  

I don't know what you had in mind
But here we stand on opposing sides
Let's go to war
Let's go to war!

We arm ourselves with the wrongs we've done
Name them off one by one
Let's go to war
Let's go to war!

Everything you say
Everything you do
Push it in
And you cut me down
(War! War! War!)

Screaming at the ones we love
Like we forgot who we can trust
Screaming at the top of our lungs
On the grounds where we feel safe
Do we feel safe?
Do we feel safe?

Hush my baby
Make no sound
Maybe we can wait each other out
It's a cold war
Let's go to war!

With every settled score
I thought that fighting with meant fighting for
But you turn it around
But you turn it around
(War! War! War!)

Screaming at the ones we love
Like we forgot who we can trust
Screaming at the top of our lungs
On the grounds where we feel safe

Screaming at the ones we love
Like we forgot who we can trust
Screaming at the top of our lungs
On the grounds where we feel safe
Do we feel safe?
Do we feel safe?
Do we feel safe?

Do we sensor?
Do we flow?
Are we drunk on the chemicals?
Every feeling in my bones
Tells me to lash out and tell you to fuck off

You've got my heart and I've got your soul
But are we better off alone?
With every battle
We lose a little more
Remember everything
That we'd die for
You are everything
That I'd die for!

Screaming at the ones we love
Like we forgot who we can trust
Screaming at the top of our lungs
On the grounds where we feel safe

Screaming at the ones we love
Like we forgot who we can trust
Screaming at the top of our lungs
On the grounds where we feel safe
Do we feel safe?
Do we feel safe?
Do we feel safe?
Do we feel safe?
Do we feel safe?
Do we feel safe?
Do we feel safe?
Do we feel safe?
Do we feel safe?

Well, do you?
-bill kenny

Friday, March 1, 2019

Harder to Forget Things that Never Happened

The great thing about telling the truth, not that the Pantload living in the White House would know anything about the word 'truth' (to include, I suspect spelling it) is that you don't have to struggle to remember any lies you may have told. 

The twists and turns of living in the material world can often ensnare you and divert you from living your one best life to, instead, perpetual damage control. That's not what was happening when I first wrote this, though the title at the time may have suggested otherwise:

Bustin' Broncos on the Mac & Cheese Ranch

Brushing my teeth yesterday, that turn of phrase popped into my head. I'm not sure where it came from and when these things happen, I get more than a little nervous. 

Has anyone ever said to you, 'what were you thinking?' and you struggled to recount the process that had resulted in your suggestion to drill a second hole in the boat in order to let the water out? No one has ever done that with me and I'm finally starting to understand why, and in this case, knowledge is not necessarily power. 

I have a brain that's more like Captain Billy's Whizbang, a turn of phrase supposedly from "The Music Man" (I adore every Lullaby on Broadway (but prefer Hackett's Lamb to Charles') as my collection of Iron Maiden attests) with which I have no familiarity and to which I tend to add 'Closet' though I don't know why. 

The lobes are filled with badly-remembered snatches of melodies from decades of rock and roll songs, some of which went plywood in Indiana while others are anthems (C'mon! Let's all Do the Clam!) none of which are improved when I sing them aloud at the top of my lungs, along with film clips projected on the inside of my skull (I can see them when I close my eyes) in random order and with no reason and less rhyme. 

I don't even like Mac and Cheese. Well, hardly. I did watch a recipe on TV the other day that added bacon to it and then it was baked, or maybe boiled (I didn't watch that much of it) and now in my head it runs into a snippet of a TV commercial for a fast food restaurant where somebody demands 'will somebody please make a bacon latte?' though the ad isn't for coffee. 

I've been holding out for decades for pony rides for my birthday but I don't think I'd go out to the North Forty in search of a Chestnut Mare. Besides, my sister, Evan, is the equestrian; I'm more of a pedestrian (and the world is better for both of those choices), so there's not much danger I'll be moving to Montana soon(er or later). 

I think the only way this could turn out well would be if I end up riding Mr. Ed into the sunset-perhaps dueting like Dale and Roy, hopefully without ending up like Trigger
-bill kenny
  

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