At some point today, unless I beat her to the phone call, she'll call to wish my wife a Happy Mother's Day and then walk across the street to the beach on the ocean where she lives in Florida because the loves the beach. Before my generation started using DTS, Down the Shore, she and hers were living it.
When I was a kid, Mom was more than unflappable, she was a force of nature and in the (now more than) three decades since the death of her husband, all of her children, joined by grandchildren and now great-grand children have watched her lead the life she wishes after taking care of so many of us for so long. Mom came to visit Sigrid and me and our two children when we all still lived in Germany.
She and Franz and Anni Schubert, Sigrid's parents, got along wonderfully well even though they shared not a single syllable of a common language. Sigrid's mom was a Rubble Woman upon whose back the Federal Republic of Germany became the economic engine of Europe in the decade after World War II. Anni's husband passed some years ago. The two women took, and take, no shit crap from anybody and raised children pretty much who are the same way.
My sisters, Evan, Kara and Jill are accomplished, masterful and successful. They take care of their own families with the same devotion and also the same discipline (no feet on tables, no glasses without coasters) as their mother did them. Evan only recently lost the love of her life, Glenn, so this day will be a little longer and more somber for her than for them. Russ and Joe are fortunate to have Kara and Jill in their lives and, I truly believe, are also smart enough to know it.
I and my two brothers, Kelly and Adam, are married to women, Sigrid, Linda and Margaret whose Moms raised them to give us the confidence every day to go out into the world and try to reinvent it in our own image and, when we come home at the end of each day, sometimes defeated but always undaunted, to convince us we can begin again on the morrow because we always have their love and support. I think among us at last count we have two point three metric boxcars of children, some with families of their own.
I realize you fear with my diabetes being so sweet puts me in danger of being terminally mushy. No worries, I'm not, as I choose to invoke the deathless words of Ray Wylie Hubbard (delivered by Jerry Jeff) to close.
-bill kenny
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